community and patience

it takes decades to build a healthy community...no exceptions...people are people...jesus , for example...the moment he left the situation...his disciples drew straws to find a replacement for the deceased disciple...not only that...they began to spread the rumor  that j.c. was coming back any day...(he was not)...the fact of the matter is that love is a gift from another universe...and the process of bringing it down here...even in the smallest quantities...takes...1-patience...2-suffering...3-humility...4-guidance...and...5- sacrifice...there is no other way...and as for those "mega" churches found throughout the world...you can just imagine the shit fest happening on the other side of those walls .