role reversal

so there i am...trying to help this couple through some personal issues...unfortunately...it was quite obvious to me that she was the man in the relationship...and he was the woman...question...should i say anything??? you gotta go with who you are and what you got...otherwise...all will be in ruins...now...i won't tell you if i said anything or not...but i will say this...sometimes people are open to truth...sometimes not...and only the wise will know the difference.