real friendship

whitehorse pages part 6

i remember working at camp throughout the late 70's and into the 80,s...every night would be concluded with the song..."friend i will remember you / think of you / pray for you / and when another day is through / i will still be friends with you"...anyway...i do not have a clue where any of those people are today...now , i am not necessarily judging this one way or another...(my judgment is reserved for another page)...but it must mean something..."a friend loves at all times...and a brother is born for times of trouble"...that is to say...specifically...in order to understand friendship...we must first understand that there are indeed counterfeits...people become "friends"...for recreational reasons...to form alliances...to facilitate social structures...to maintain an image...and finally...people become friends because they really love each other...yes...love...i do not now and will not have a friend that i do not love...( and by that...i mean put in front of myself in terms of how i interact with the universe)...i do not have time to waste... life is too short...now , i know this is a fast food society...and everything is disposable...and intimacy in friendship is considered...anti-social...but this is simply because our society is emotionally mangled beyond belief...we need friends to fulfill our lives...to grow and become with...and this is not to say we do not need those other relationships too...but my ping-pong buddy is my ping-pong buddy...and i try not to confuse the roles that everyone plays in my life...real friendship is just that...real...and real scares the shit out of people...but what do you have to lose??? in a few short years we will all be dead and forgotten anyway...live your life as fully as you possibly can...and this is simply impossible to do without fully functional friendship...live love .