August 11

the room mate

it was the early 90's...my roommate was moving back home to africa...the issue...not only did she leave owing me two months rent...but she "ran up" a 300 dollar phone bill just before she left...anyway...i went to clean up her room...and what should i find but a love letter to her lesbian lover...which would be o.k...but for one thing...she was married...indeed...now i could easily get my money back...thing is...then i would have to live with myself...point being...your soul is worth more than 900 dollars...live luv

the fan belt

back when i lived in australia...i would walk to my friends place along this unlit dark country road...there was always an old fan belt along the way...but this one night however...i noticed that the fan belt was 10 or so yards ahead of where it usually was...i reached down to pick it up and throw to where it was supposed to be...and suddenly...the fan belt slithered away ...as it was leaving...i identified it as a tia pan...the second most lethal snake in the world...question...was i lucky??? or was it divine intervention??? 

August Ninth

punishment july 30 2011

where we are and what we are doing there...has little to do with the moment...and everything to do with  the moments that led to that point...and how we lived them .

dynamics :

1-hurt
2-no resolution
3-project
4-attack
5-justify
6-forget or repress
7-perpetuate cycle

...people must not be punished for what others have done to us

dynamics :

1-we are hurt
2-must get in contact with that pain
3-begin to resolve : prayer / confession / dealing with the moment / forgiveness
4-resolve
5-be aware of what isn't resolved
6-walk in love
7-grow and become

discovering anothers soul part 2

although people are not terribly interested in revealing themselves by use of their cognitive processes...this does not change the obvious...they , non-the -less...are who they are...and are more than willing to give you this information if you know how to get it...so how??? 1-power...allow the power to be shifted...just a tad...in their general direction...if power is an issue with them...they will not be able to resist...it is the nature of the sickness...2-weakness...we are all weak...just reveal this aspect of who you are... just a bit will do...and see what happens...just like power...being an emotional predator is a sickness...and will not remain hidden if given the chance...3-the "ass hole" factor...what do they think of "ass holes"??? do they have mercy??? do they keep safe boundaries yet still care...or do they want to annihilate??? point...we will all sooner or later be "ass holes" to most people...the question is...will they want to murder us for it...or will they care???

discovering anothers soul part 1

by the way...who are you???

the fact of the matter is that you will  virtually never discover the identity of another by asking them...this is true for three reasons...1-they do not known who they are...2-being that type of real...will take away their leverage in "the game of life"...and...3--people are afraid of being mistreated...therefore...they hide their identity from others...(and consequently...sooner or later...as a result...themselves)...yet in order to deal with the situation efficaciously...you must have this information...not for any self serving reason...(trust me...it will inevitably go to shit if your motives are wrong)...but so you can be safe...and so you can facilitate the loving dynamic in that particular situating...indeed...how do we live luv???